LETSGOBROWNIES Posted September 22, 2017 Share Posted September 22, 2017 5 minutes ago, cddolphin said: I lean this way. Maybe next time you make eye contact just smile at her but don't engage in conversation. Do this a couple times. If she ever seeks you out conversationally, or initiates saying hello / waving, she may be interested in reciprocating. Agreed. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LETSGOBROWNIES Posted September 22, 2017 Share Posted September 22, 2017 6 minutes ago, scar988 said: Obviously just ask for a number. Not be crazy about it and try to make it casual like you're trying to be friendly. It doesn't usually come off as friendly to chicks, they aren't all idiots. If you're doing it right you don't have to ask for their number, they offer it to you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
project T.O Posted September 22, 2017 Share Posted September 22, 2017 So sort of slow play it? Thats typically terrible advice, but I think you guys are right given the circumstances of it being a gym. And I don't want to make her feel like I'm there to just pickup girls and get in the way of things she's trying to do. Thanks! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lavar703 Posted September 26, 2017 Share Posted September 26, 2017 On 9/22/2017 at 2:32 PM, project T.O said: So sort of slow play it? Thats typically terrible advice, but I think you guys are right given the circumstances of it being a gym. And I don't want to make her feel like I'm there to just pickup girls and get in the way of things she's trying to do. Thanks! There's really not much of a science to it dude. Just tell her you've enjoyed chatting with her and ask her if you can exchange numbers. She's not going to freak out on you or embarrass you in front of everyone at the gym if she's not interested so don't be scared of that. Show some confidence and go for it. And if she's not interested, who cares? You're going to meet a million different females you're attracted to throughout your life. Don't be brash or a jerk, and don't try any of that pick up crap. Just be confident. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CWood21 Posted September 26, 2017 Share Posted September 26, 2017 2 minutes ago, lavar703 said: There's really not much of a science to it dude. Just tell her you've enjoyed chatting with her and ask her if you can exchange numbers. She's not going to freak out on you or embarrass you in front of everyone at the gym if she's not interested so don't be scared of that. Show some confidence and go for it. And if she's not interested, who cares? You're going to meet a million different females you're attracted to throughout your life. Don't be brash or a jerk, and don't try any of that pick up crap. Just be confident. Yeah, I don't really understand the whole slow-playing it unless you're in high school. Talk to her, and if you're getting good vibes ask her if she wants to get coffee or something. No reason to overthink it. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LETSGOBROWNIES Posted September 27, 2017 Share Posted September 27, 2017 2 hours ago, CWood21 said: Yeah, I don't really understand the whole slow-playing it unless you're in high school. Talk to her, and if you're getting good vibes ask her if she wants to get coffee or something. No reason to overthink it. Because you're at the gym and some folks just go to workout and would rather not be hit on. A lot of people go to the gym at the same time on the same days, her having to tell every single dude whose pants tighten when she's doing the abductor machine that she's not interested, in a relationship, etc., makes it a terrible experience for her. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CWood21 Posted September 27, 2017 Share Posted September 27, 2017 10 minutes ago, LETSGOBROWNIES said: Because you're at the gym and some folks just go to workout and would rather not be hit on. A lot of people go to the gym at the same time on the same days, her having to tell every single dude whose pants tighten when she's doing the abductor machine that she's not interested, in a relationship, etc., makes it a terrible experience for her. I mean, there's a difference between striking up a conversation after you're done working out and just chatting and going up there mid rep and trying to pick her up. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LETSGOBROWNIES Posted September 27, 2017 Share Posted September 27, 2017 8 minutes ago, CWood21 said: I mean, there's a difference between striking up a conversation after you're done working out and just chatting and going up there mid rep and trying to pick her up. I get that, but he's already struck up a conversation. If she's remotely interested she'll let him know with a wave, smile, initiating a conversation, etc. If that happens, sure, go for it, but she may also have just been trying to be polite the first time and would rather just workout. Her actions moving forward should indicate if that's the case. I generally have a "take the bull by the horns" mentality, but there are times to pull back as to not look like "that guy" if you can avoid it. JMHO. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fretgod99 Posted September 28, 2017 Share Posted September 28, 2017 On 9/26/2017 at 9:44 PM, LETSGOBROWNIES said: I get that, but he's already struck up a conversation. If she's remotely interested she'll let him know with a wave, smile, initiating a conversation, etc. If that happens, sure, go for it, but she may also have just been trying to be polite the first time and would rather just workout. Her actions moving forward should indicate if that's the case. I generally have a "take the bull by the horns" mentality, but there are times to pull back as to not look like "that guy" if you can avoid it. JMHO. Cosign. If you've ever stumbled across one of those "this is the ish guys do that annoy us" type articles, hitting on women when they're trying to workout, etc. is pretty high up on the list. People go to the gym to work out. That doesn't mean it's impossible to pick someone up or that you should avoid talking to people at all, but like Brownies is saying, you probably shouldn't really actively pursue somebody. If there's already some semblance of a relationship established, she'll let you know if she's interested. If you're not getting the vibes, let her work out in peace. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
49ersfan Posted October 5, 2017 Share Posted October 5, 2017 (edited) Got a question about 2 girls in my friend group. I'm not the best at reading women, and recently I dealt with a woman who was so back and forth it made my head spin. So now I'm cautious when it comes to women. Me and the 2 girls are all in our late 20's. Girl 1- I told her i'm going to my hometown this weekend for vacation, the 2nd time this year i've gone back. She says "you go there so often, how come, got a girlfriend? I'm so jealous, haha, so funny". She also is asking me to bring her something for her upcoming birthday. She got me a small food item a few months ago as a small gift (no occasion). Ive also felt shes been somewhat flirty with me on and off for a while. One time me and her were talking about my drinking habits, and another girl comes up to her and asks "how do you know, did you go for a drink with him?" So i feel at least someone else can notice it. However, i did ask her to my office holiday party last year, and she declined saying she didn't know anyone, then asked me if i would want to invite her friend instead. Few weeks later, she tells me her friend has a bf and has never brought her up since. All of the above has happened well after this Girl 2- We got to talking one Monday. She asks me what i did that weekend, i say go downtown. She asks "oh nice, did you go with your gf"? I say no (i'm single at the moment). Then she asks me if i went to the strip club, which i say no. She starts talking about wanting to go to a male strip club. Then later on in the conversation, she asks me if it must be difficult for me to bring girls over, as i still live at home. I didn't bring up anything with her at all, these are all questions/comments she made out of the blue. I would have asked her out or started flirting with her, but....before she asks me all these questions, she tells me she has a bf. Still, feels odd that she would bring up all these topics? What do you guys think? Is there anything there? I wouldn't ask out a girl with a bf, but i'm just curious of anyone's interpretation. And i'm thinking of asking girl #1 out to celebrate her birthday later this month. Edited October 5, 2017 by 49ersfan 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CWood21 Posted October 5, 2017 Share Posted October 5, 2017 1 minute ago, 49ersfan said: What do you guys think? Is there anything there? I wouldn't ask out a girl with a bf, but i'm just curious of anyone's interpretation. I don't really see anything there with Girl 2, especially if she brought up the fact that she had a BF without being prompted. Girl 1 seems interested, I don't know what you have to lose by asking her out. She might have just been uncomfortable in social settings with people she doesn't know, and doesn't want to seem to clingy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scar988 Posted October 6, 2017 Author Share Posted October 6, 2017 Girl 2 could also be trying to do some research for girl 1... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kiwibrown Posted October 6, 2017 Share Posted October 6, 2017 Ask out G1, she is keen as a mung bean. Relationship wise. If you like her ask her out. If you don't don't. Also coffee is coffee, not a full blown relationship. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CWood21 Posted October 6, 2017 Share Posted October 6, 2017 2 minutes ago, Kiwibrown said: Also coffee is coffee, not a full blown relationship. Truer words have never been spoken. I've got friends who literally freak out over asking a girl out to eat or out for a cup of coffee. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
beezee Posted October 6, 2017 Share Posted October 6, 2017 On 9/28/2017 at 12:33 AM, fretgod99 said: Cosign. If you've ever stumbled across one of those "this is the ish guys do that annoy us" type articles, hitting on women when they're trying to workout, etc. is pretty high up on the list. People go to the gym to work out. That doesn't mean it's impossible to pick someone up or that you should avoid talking to people at all, but like Brownies is saying, you probably shouldn't really actively pursue somebody. If there's already some semblance of a relationship established, she'll let you know if she's interested. If you're not getting the vibes, let her work out in peace. I get it "while" they are working out, but if he had a good time chatting, trying to catch up with her after her workout and before she leaves is fine IMO. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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