ramssuperbowl99 Posted October 28, 2017 Share Posted October 28, 2017 47 minutes ago, LETSGOBROWNIES said: I work for an excellent company and love my job. My manager and I get along wonderfully. I'm not the one complaining about my manager mind you. I was under the impression you were looking for honest feedback, but it seems you just wanted folks to agree with you. Fair enough. Just trying to provide some feedback man. "All I've heard is your side of the story, and my impression is that you aren't taking feedback well." "No you're wrong." ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ You can lead a horse to water. 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hunter2_1 Posted October 28, 2017 Share Posted October 28, 2017 @steadypimpin Must admit, that would have p!ssed me off slightly. Correct me if I'm wrong though, just an observation, but is the fact that she's a woman doing this to you making it worse? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tugboat Posted October 28, 2017 Share Posted October 28, 2017 8 minutes ago, LETSGOBROWNIES said: I mean, I don't know if anyone is arguing against any of those points tbh. We heard one side of the story. It's not exactly out of the realm of possibility that there was some bias in how it was told. Yes, let's hear the **** side of the story. Good point. Let's hear from the person who is annoyed that an "underling" requested a sign-off on a procedure to improve someone's quality of life in their housing where they actually live. And got all snippy about the "tone" or "attitude" of one of the people they manage via email, when they tried to set this process in motion. Without actually bothering to face-to-face the person and get an actual read on how to "manage" them as a human being. Sure. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Incarcerated_Scarface Posted October 28, 2017 Share Posted October 28, 2017 26 minutes ago, Hunter2_1 said: @steadypimpin Must admit, that would have p!ssed me off slightly. Correct me if I'm wrong though, just an observation, but is the fact that she's a woman doing this to you making it worse? No way man I have no problem working for a woman or someone younger etc. If you know me, I'm super chill. Me and her have a great work relationship. My coworkers always joke that I'm the golden boy when it comes to her. We're really cool with each other, live minutes apart, she's met my whole family. Just sometimes she overreacts and this time I had to say something because it wasn't cool with me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hunter2_1 Posted October 28, 2017 Share Posted October 28, 2017 1 minute ago, steadypimpin said: No way man I have no problem working for a woman or someone younger etc. If you know me, I'm super chill. Me and her have a great work relationship. My coworkers always joke that I'm the golden boy when it comes to her. We're really cool with each other, live minutes apart, she's met my whole family. Just sometimes she overreacts and this time I had to say something because it wasn't cool with me. Fair enough Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LETSGOBROWNIES Posted October 28, 2017 Share Posted October 28, 2017 23 minutes ago, Tugboat said: Yes, let's hear the **** side of the story. Good point. Let's hear from the person who is annoyed that an "underling" requested a sign-off on a procedure to improve someone's quality of life in their housing where they actually live. And got all snippy about the "tone" or "attitude" of one of the people they manage via email, when they tried to set this process in motion. Without actually bothering to face-to-face the person and get an actual read on how to "manage" them as a human being. Sure. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tugboat Posted October 28, 2017 Share Posted October 28, 2017 4 minutes ago, LETSGOBROWNIES said: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Small Town Values Posted October 28, 2017 Share Posted October 28, 2017 17 hours ago, LETSGOBROWNIES said: @Marc MacGyver pandering for likes from all of our Catalonian members. So transparent. ... LGB. You got me! I should've known better than to think a veiled attempt to curry Catalan favour would go unnoticed. Particularly - by one with the "LIKES GAME" on lock. SMH. PS.................................... Now that I have everyone's attention! "Meet me here in this godforsaken place on All Hallows' Eve..." "Together! We'll raise Franco from the grave to quash the rebellion." "You must tell no one of what I speak." 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Small Town Values Posted October 28, 2017 Share Posted October 28, 2017 18 hours ago, ramssuperbowl99 said: Anybody else want a 51st state? Well it's always handy to keep a spare... After all, you never know when Cali, or Texas are finally gonna breakaway. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NS922 Posted October 28, 2017 Share Posted October 28, 2017 come on, man Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dome Posted October 28, 2017 Share Posted October 28, 2017 18 hours ago, steadypimpin said: This company I work for is small, we have 7 employees. You'd have to know the culture here to really comment Then why ask a bunch of people who dont know the culture to comment? You came asking for advice, just so you remember.... I think if people had agreed with you, “knowing the culture” wouldn’t have been an issue. I think the best bet at this point is just moving on. If she thought you were in a bad mood before the email, the way you handled it certainly didn’t convince her otherwise. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Incarcerated_Scarface Posted October 28, 2017 Share Posted October 28, 2017 1 minute ago, domepatrol91 said: Then why ask a bunch of people who dont know the culture to comment? You came asking for advice, just so you remember.... I think if people had agreed with you, “knowing the culture” wouldn’t have been an issue. I think the best bet at this point is just moving on. If she thought you were in a bad mood before the email, the way you handled it certainly didn’t convince her otherwise. No I was talking about the culture in regards to what those guys were saying about me being labeled as a disgruntled employee. They seem to think I was in a big corporate setting. I was just asking if that's kosher for a coworker to read into my words typed in an email and assume my emotions. That was the main question. I would assume in any company nobody should read into others typed words and try and diagnose a mood. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LETSGOBROWNIES Posted October 28, 2017 Share Posted October 28, 2017 32 minutes ago, steadypimpin said: No I was talking about the culture in regards to what those guys were saying about me being labeled as a disgruntled employee. They seem to think I was in a big corporate setting. I was just asking if that's kosher for a coworker to read into my words typed in an email and assume my emotions. That was the main question. I would assume in any company nobody should read into others typed words and try and diagnose a mood. Should they? Obviously not. Does it happen? Obviously it does from time to time. Without seeing the email in its entirety it's hard to know whether that was a reasonable assumption or not. That said, based on what little info we have it does seem as though you let your emotions get the better of you (even if she did the same) and probably overreacted. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ramssuperbowl99 Posted October 28, 2017 Share Posted October 28, 2017 40 minutes ago, steadypimpin said: I would assume in any company nobody should read into others typed words and try and diagnose a mood. This is an excuse for flippant word choice and will hold you back in any career. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dome Posted October 28, 2017 Share Posted October 28, 2017 42 minutes ago, steadypimpin said: I was just asking if that's kosher for a coworker to read into my words typed in an email and assume my emotions. Coworker? I thought she was your boss. I would react very differently to a coworker than my boss. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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