CWood21 Posted June 10, 2022 Share Posted June 10, 2022 52 minutes ago, Texansfan713 said: do you guys think good morning texts are a big deal? like if you text your SO good morning and she doesnt respond to it would you feel a type of way? I think it's generally a female thing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heimdallr Posted June 11, 2022 Share Posted June 11, 2022 (edited) 10 hours ago, Texansfan713 said: do you guys think good morning texts are a big deal? like if you text your SO good morning and she doesnt respond to it would you feel a type of way? If I didn't get a response I would assume a Taken situation and gear up for a rampage Edited June 11, 2022 by Heimdallr Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vike daddy Posted June 12, 2022 Share Posted June 12, 2022 On 6/10/2022 at 8:32 AM, Texansfan713 said: do you guys think good morning texts are a big deal? like if you text your SO good morning and she doesnt respond to it would you feel a type of way? i would feel that you're overthinking it and she might be busy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
naptownskinsfan Posted June 12, 2022 Share Posted June 12, 2022 So we’ve been back to talking since she reached out. On Friday, she let me know that Thursday was going to be a complete day off for her, and she made a big deal about it. I’m on the fence about asking her if she wants to get together, because one of the things that we talked through was me putting pressure on her to hang out when she first got busy. The other thing is that we have plans to do a weekend away that includes a concert on June 25th, and we had discussed that possibly looking different. I have to have my schedule in for work for that week on Tuesday of this week, so I do need to reach out and figure out what that weekend looks like, but what do you all think about Thursday? I’ve gotten split opinions from two friends, so you guys are the tiebreakers. One said just find a way to send her my availability for this week (which is pretty full myself) and the other said just ask her out to dinner and essentially make it low stakes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vike daddy Posted June 16, 2022 Share Posted June 16, 2022 On 6/12/2022 at 1:26 PM, naptownskinsfan said: I’ve gotten split opinions from two friends, so you guys are the tiebreakers. One said just find a way to send her my availability for this week (which is pretty full myself) and the other said just ask her out to dinner and essentially make it low stakes. aaaaand... it's Thursday, so you've probably already dealt with it. but i'd say a casual "hey, would you like to do something together" would have been all you needed. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JaguarCrazy2832 Posted June 16, 2022 Share Posted June 16, 2022 My beginning with my wife I feel like is somewhat different for a few reasons. Even though we knew each other in HS and dated some in college we weren't particularly close so there wasnt a friend zone thing but when we reconnected after college: 1. Getting her to respond to text messages was incredibly difficult 2. She constantly kept saying she's sorry she's so busy with work, vet school application stuff and/or possibly a Masters program I being a relatively impatient person/wanting an answer rather than this "does she like me or not thing" pretty much took 1 final swing, I bought 2 movie tickets and a birthday card for her. Dropped it off in the mailbox and in the card said something like "Sorry you've been so busy, hope you can use these and have some fun for a change" Basically, the ball is in your court, if she invites me to the movie cool, if not, then I will just move on The movie ticket thing worked, although she showed up super late to the movie despite confirming the time a few hours earlier but that turns out to be how she is, so now we're late to everything lol 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
naptownskinsfan Posted June 17, 2022 Share Posted June 17, 2022 On 6/16/2022 at 9:49 AM, vike daddy said: aaaaand... it's Thursday, so you've probably already dealt with it. but i'd say a casual "hey, would you like to do something together" would have been all you needed. Yeah she hinted Monday at wanting to make something for me and I asked her to dinner when she was free, and then it’s now turned into us going away this weekend to meet two of her aunts (one is moving back home) and a cousin. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vike daddy Posted June 18, 2022 Share Posted June 18, 2022 On 6/17/2022 at 7:26 AM, naptownskinsfan said: Yeah she hinted Monday at wanting to make something for me and I asked her to dinner when she was free, and then it’s now turned into us going away this weekend to meet two of her aunts (one is moving back home) and a cousin. there ya go! see? just take it easy and casual (but be truthful and don't play games) and things will move along. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
twslhs20 Posted June 19, 2022 Share Posted June 19, 2022 The girl was I had 2 dates fell out of communication with me. Unsuccessfully attempted to secure a 3rd date the past 2 weeks. I sent a text to her Tuesday, that she never responded to. So that is probably over. Had a 1st date last night with a different girl. Going to attempt to get a second date. I'm really having to reign myself in with her. I was up late looking a concert tickets for 2 of her favorite country artists, and I do not care for country music in the slightest. If that gives you any indication lol. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vike daddy Posted June 20, 2022 Share Posted June 20, 2022 18 hours ago, twslhs20 said: I was up late looking a concert tickets for 2 of her favorite country artists, and I do not care for country music in the slightest. If that gives you any indication lol. i think it's important you find things you both like. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
naptownskinsfan Posted June 20, 2022 Share Posted June 20, 2022 On 6/19/2022 at 2:34 PM, twslhs20 said: The girl was I had 2 dates fell out of communication with me. Unsuccessfully attempted to secure a 3rd date the past 2 weeks. I sent a text to her Tuesday, that she never responded to. So that is probably over. Had a 1st date last night with a different girl. Going to attempt to get a second date. I'm really having to reign myself in with her. I was up late looking a concert tickets for 2 of her favorite country artists, and I do not care for country music in the slightest. If that gives you any indication lol. I was highly interested in a girl years ago, and it was a horrible deal, but I also want to recommend the following……don’t come off as a chameleon. When I finally let her go, I realized she did that with everyone and it’s really a false sense of things. It is very important that you all find common ground, and that you don’t go all-in on things she likes this early that you have no interest in. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
naptownskinsfan Posted June 20, 2022 Share Posted June 20, 2022 On 6/18/2022 at 4:49 PM, vike daddy said: there ya go! see? just take it easy and casual (but be truthful and don't play games) and things will move along. Visit with the aunts and cousins went well. Apparently word about me got back to her mom quickly, in a good way. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
twslhs20 Posted June 21, 2022 Share Posted June 21, 2022 11 hours ago, vike daddy said: i think it's important you find things you both like. 100% agree. I just really enjoyed my time getting to know her. I didn't pull the trigger. That would just be creepy and insane lol. But, If it gets to date 6 or 8, I'd like to so something special. I already feel insane. Cool. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
twslhs20 Posted June 21, 2022 Share Posted June 21, 2022 3 hours ago, naptownskinsfan said: I was highly interested in a girl years ago, and it was a horrible deal, but I also want to recommend the following……don’t come off as a chameleon. When I finally let her go, I realized she did that with everyone and it’s really a false sense of things. It is very important that you all find common ground, and that you don’t go all-in on things she likes this early that you have no interest in. Fair point. I told her up front I didn't care for country. I was just thinking doing something she would enjoy down the line if It got that far. My luck hasn't been great so far lol. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
naptownskinsfan Posted June 21, 2022 Share Posted June 21, 2022 13 hours ago, twslhs20 said: Fair point. I told her up front I didn't care for country. I was just thinking doing something she would enjoy down the line if It got that far. My luck hasn't been great so far lol. That is fair. How you presented it was that you were looking to do it fairly quickly, so I just wanted to share that story from my experience. Looking back on my situation afterwards when I got clarity, her being a chameleon should’ve been a massive red flag. There is no problem with having things you both like doing that the other doesn’t, but sometimes it is nice to do something together that the other person really likes. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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