Forge Posted August 5, 2018 Share Posted August 5, 2018 14 hours ago, Incarcerated_Scarface said: I am a father of two boys, 5 &7. As much as I love them, looking back now I feel like I should've just stayed kidless. Why do we have kids? Because society says that's what you do after marriage? I fell into that line of thinking and feel like I'd be better off without kids. Obviously I don't have a delorean to travel back in time with and start over. I am the best dad I can be, I do all kinds of things with my boys and try to teach them everything I can along the way. I'm just saying, don't have kids unless you really really want them. I like the honesty. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LETSGOBROWNIES Posted August 5, 2018 Share Posted August 5, 2018 22 hours ago, Incarcerated_Scarface said: I am a father of two boys, 5 &7. As much as I love them, looking back now I feel like I should've just stayed kidless. Why do we have kids? Because society says that's what you do after marriage? I fell into that line of thinking and feel like I'd be better off without kids. Obviously I don't have a delorean to travel back in time with and start over. I am the best dad I can be, I do all kinds of things with my boys and try to teach them everything I can along the way. I'm just saying, don't have kids unless you really really want them. Damn man, ish got real.... Seriously though, that’s something you’re not alone on, lots of people probably would have been better off not having kids. Personally, I think I’m better for and life’s better because of it, but I could easily see how others wouldn’t. Good on you for the honesty. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BullsandBroncos Posted August 5, 2018 Share Posted August 5, 2018 I'm the 5th kid from my parents. I think they are nuts. Like wtf were they thinking. My 2 oldest sisters have kids. Long story short, I would like to retire early, live where there aren't any seasons besides pool season, and not cosign for student loans. Kids aren't for me. I'm completely content with being the favorite uncle. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JaguarCrazy2832 Posted August 5, 2018 Author Share Posted August 5, 2018 I totally get the whole society thinks you should have them thing. Tbh I only want 1, my wife wanted 3 and we've settled on 2 but even now she makes it sound like she just wants 1. She said she doesnt want the kid to be lonely or not have someone to play with...and i'm like thats why we have a dog lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Incarcerated_Scarface Posted August 5, 2018 Share Posted August 5, 2018 2 hours ago, BullsandBroncos said: I'm the 5th kid from my parents. I think they are nuts. Like wtf were they thinking. My 2 oldest sisters have kids. Long story short, I would like to retire early, live where there aren't any seasons besides pool season, and not cosign for student loans. Kids aren't for me. I'm completely content with being the favorite uncle. That was my old life. I was the cool uncle. Now I'm the dad with no life??? well, I have a life but it revolves around my kids. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BullsandBroncos Posted August 5, 2018 Share Posted August 5, 2018 22 minutes ago, JaguarCrazy2832 said: I totally get the whole society thinks you should have them thing. Tbh I only want 1, my wife wanted 3 and we've settled on 2 but even now she makes it sound like she just wants 1. She said she doesnt want the kid to be lonely or not have someone to play with...and i'm like thats why we have a dog lol That's what school is for. If not, there's always boarding school. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JaguarCrazy2832 Posted August 5, 2018 Author Share Posted August 5, 2018 30 minutes ago, BullsandBroncos said: That's what school is for. If not, there's always boarding school. Yea I definitely don't agree with that "logic" she had there lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TLO Posted August 5, 2018 Share Posted August 5, 2018 Use sunblock when you take the kid outside 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BullsandBroncos Posted August 6, 2018 Share Posted August 6, 2018 My woman wants 2 or 3 before we are 30. I said ok well I want a yellow lab and she can pick the other. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mission27 Posted August 6, 2018 Share Posted August 6, 2018 On 8/5/2018 at 6:33 PM, TLO said: Use sunblock when you take the kid outside @Tyty Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ty21 Posted August 6, 2018 Share Posted August 6, 2018 24 minutes ago, mission27 said: @Tyty Optional Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kiwibrown Posted August 7, 2018 Share Posted August 7, 2018 Id have 5 kids but me and my wife are too old for that, probably two or three if we can make some more. Currently have 1. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JaguarCrazy2832 Posted August 7, 2018 Author Share Posted August 7, 2018 Here's a somewhat non-baby related question and moreso the process... So i told my boss at work already just so in case my wife is having a breakdown, he knows and he let's me leave to take care of it especially since with her Mom in a bad way she doesnt have someone to fall back on that she always thought she'd have. When do you start telling other people? Like most family and some friends know but my wife is very worried about the 1st trimester since her Mom had a miscarriage before having her so she doesnt want everyone to know. We have been somewhat methodical in telling people because we dont want it to snowball and have EVERYONE know before it is too soon. Obviously i told you guys as mostly a way of keeping me informed and sane but what is the timeframe where it is okay to tell everyone or at least stop denying it Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ramssuperbowl99 Posted August 7, 2018 Share Posted August 7, 2018 On 8/5/2018 at 7:51 AM, LETSGOBROWNIES said: Damn man, ish got real.... Seriously though, that’s something you’re not alone on, lots of people probably would have been better off not having kids. Personally, I think I’m better for and life’s better because of it, but I could easily see how others wouldn’t. Good on you for the honesty. It's painfully apparent when people regret it too. Parents either talk about their kids incessantly or almost never, and the former used to annoy me until I realized that's just a side-effect of being an involved, loving parent. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ramssuperbowl99 Posted August 7, 2018 Share Posted August 7, 2018 1 hour ago, JaguarCrazy2832 said: Here's a somewhat non-baby related question and moreso the process... So i told my boss at work already just so in case my wife is having a breakdown, he knows and he let's me leave to take care of it especially since with her Mom in a bad way she doesnt have someone to fall back on that she always thought she'd have. When do you start telling other people? Like most family and some friends know but my wife is very worried about the 1st trimester since her Mom had a miscarriage before having her so she doesnt want everyone to know. We have been somewhat methodical in telling people because we dont want it to snowball and have EVERYONE know before it is too soon. Obviously i told you guys as mostly a way of keeping me informed and sane but what is the timeframe where it is okay to tell everyone or at least stop denying it In the non-family, also not a parent group who hears last, I generally hear at about 3-4 months. I had a co-worker who waited until 7 months (seriously) to tell people. No timeline bothers me. It is 0% my business, so confidently say "**** off" to anybody who wants to know on their schedule. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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