LETSGOBROWNIES Posted June 26, 2018 Share Posted June 26, 2018 2 minutes ago, cddolphin said: If you're no longer in college (where it's easy enough anyway), who the hell is going to a library? Do ya'll like watching poor people use the computers to play tetris and look up porn, or something? Where do you rent your VHS tapes? 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
skywindO2 Posted June 29, 2018 Share Posted June 29, 2018 I haven't put a lot of effort into dating but randomly started swiping on Bumble this week and someone messaged me. This is basically me: How do I do better? 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ty21 Posted July 3, 2018 Share Posted July 3, 2018 Am I allowed to vent and release in here even though you all told me I was with a toxic evil person for years and I was very aware of it? 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Malfatron Posted July 3, 2018 Share Posted July 3, 2018 Just now, Tyty said: Am I allowed to vent and release in here even though you all told me I was with a toxic evil person for years and I was very aware of it? please do. is the divorce final yet? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ty21 Posted July 3, 2018 Share Posted July 3, 2018 1 minute ago, MathMan said: please do. is the divorce final yet? As far as I know it’s a very long process. I move out Monday (took a long time to find somewhere to go since my ex burned all my bridges to everyone I know) and will be filing soon thereafter probably. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cddolphin Posted July 3, 2018 Share Posted July 3, 2018 On 6/28/2018 at 9:16 PM, skywindO2 said: How do I do better? Surprised nobody gave their thoughts; at the same time I'm not surprised because, well, trying to meaningfully engage a women through a dating app is a borderline fruitless endeavor (there are exceptions I suppose, I wouldn't know) The only advice I could even give would be to minimize the time spent communicating on the app and prioritizing real-life dates. after a few basic exchanges hit them with the: "Hey I'm glad we connected on here, I have to admit I'm not the best texter; how about I take you out Thursday? <That way watching me try to flirt will be more entertaining / There's just so much nuance in a face-to-face conversation you can't replace through messaging / I'm sure an actual date sounds better than getting endless messages on a dating app> (Tailor it based on her personality, your conversation, whether she's more serious or playful based on the limited bit you know) btw ask them out on a weeknight, I like Wednesday or Thursdays. I've noticed the "tone" of the date shifts slightly and they tend to be more willing to agree that was originally supposed to be a short response but there ya go (please note that my online dating success rate is poor but not zero so take it all with a grain of salt) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cddolphin Posted July 3, 2018 Share Posted July 3, 2018 7 minutes ago, Tyty said: I move out Monday (took a long time to find somewhere to go since my ex burned all my bridges to everyone I know) and will be filing soon thereafter probably. Jesus dude, lawyer up please. You never move out of your own volition before even filing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ty21 Posted July 3, 2018 Share Posted July 3, 2018 8 minutes ago, cddolphin said: Jesus dude, lawyer up please. You never move out of your own volition before even filing. I don’t really know what I’m doing. But she’s sleeping with another guy in my bed every time I go to work (We’ve been separated a month but she instantly started sleeping with other guys) so I’m really just trying hard to get out. Don’t have money for a lawyer really Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cddolphin Posted July 3, 2018 Share Posted July 3, 2018 26 minutes ago, Tyty said: I don’t really know what I’m doing. Good thing you have access to a massive, virtually instant database. Here's a good place to start: http://lmgtfy.com/?q=should+i+move+out+before+filing+divorce Get proactive my dude 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LETSGOBROWNIES Posted July 3, 2018 Share Posted July 3, 2018 36 minutes ago, Tyty said: I don’t really know what I’m doing. But she’s sleeping with another guy in my bed every time I go to work (We’ve been separated a month but she instantly started sleeping with other guys) so I’m really just trying hard to get out. Don’t have money for a lawyer really Bruh... Can we start a GoFundMe to keep tyty from having to sleep in some other folks wet spot? Feel bad for ya homie, jokes aside. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ty21 Posted July 3, 2018 Share Posted July 3, 2018 13 minutes ago, cddolphin said: Good thing you have access to a massive, virtually instant database. Here's a good place to start: http://lmgtfy.com/?q=should+i+move+out+before+filing+divorce Get proactive my dude Getting proactive. I did call the cops on her a month ago for assaulting me so maybe that might affect the leaving before divorce thing. Since the police told me to find somewhere else to live that day lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LETSGOBROWNIES Posted July 3, 2018 Share Posted July 3, 2018 3 minutes ago, Tyty said: Getting proactive. I did call the cops on her a month ago for assaulting me so maybe that might affect the leaving before divorce thing. Since the police told me to find somewhere else to live that day lol Don’t listen to the cops, they aren’t lawyers and don’t have your best interest in mind. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BornToFly Posted July 3, 2018 Share Posted July 3, 2018 2 hours ago, Tyty said: As far as I know it’s a very long process. I move out Monday (took a long time to find somewhere to go since my ex burned all my bridges to everyone I know) and will be filing soon thereafter probably. I'm really sorry to read all this Tyty. Definitely talk to a lawyer and get all your options on the table so you can make more informed decisions. Best of luck to you. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JaguarCrazy2832 Posted July 4, 2018 Share Posted July 4, 2018 On 7/3/2018 at 4:07 PM, cddolphin said: Surprised nobody gave their thoughts; at the same time I'm not surprised because, well, trying to meaningfully engage a women through a dating app is a borderline fruitless endeavor (there are exceptions I suppose, I wouldn't know) The only advice I could even give would be to minimize the time spent communicating on the app and prioritizing real-life dates. after a few basic exchanges hit them with the: "Hey I'm glad we connected on here, I have to admit I'm not the best texter; how about I take you out Thursday? <That way watching me try to flirt will be more entertaining / There's just so much nuance in a face-to-face conversation you can't replace through messaging / I'm sure an actual date sounds better than getting endless messages on a dating app> (Tailor it based on her personality, your conversation, whether she's more serious or playful based on the limited bit you know) btw ask them out on a weeknight, I like Wednesday or Thursdays. I've noticed the "tone" of the date shifts slightly and they tend to be more willing to agree that was originally supposed to be a short response but there ya go (please note that my online dating success rate is poor but not zero so take it all with a grain of salt) @skywindO2 I agree with pretty much all of this. If you are going to use a dating app you can make contact and start a back and forth but I would get an in-person date sooner rather than later. Plenty of times people will want to talk and then never respond when you when you ask them out. Better to be chasing a chance than a shadow. Last thing you want is to have this long back and forth forever and then when you finally want to get together they dont respond. So glad i dont have to deal with dating now because it has to suck. Cant date where you work and bar/club life is hard to weed through the people worth dating Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CWood21 Posted July 6, 2018 Share Posted July 6, 2018 I can officially say I've been ghosted by a girlfriend... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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